I couldn’t help but to laugh the first time I saw her do the L sit. I think you can view at the proper screen size by hitting one of the screen size icons.
Erica's first pancake
A couple of weekends ago, I had a craving for berry pancakes with butter and maple syrup. I had a bit of batter leftover, so I made a mini pancake for e, just to see what she would do with it…
Words for our Grandma…
It’s hard to believe that Grandma left us 7 years ago today. Maybe it doesn’t seem that long ago because we, as a family, still talk about her quite a bit, which keeps her memory very much alive.
As I posted Grandpa’s eulogy, I thought it would be fitting to find Grandma’s eulogy and post it. I found that reading the words now, probably means more today given the state of our family. And now that the next generation is here, we have a promise to fulfill!
On Behalf of my sister Vennie and my cousins- Jason, Jennifer, Michael (who could not be with us here today, but passes along his love and support), Christopher, Lester, Jonatan, and Cindy- I would like to say a few words to express how much our Grandmother means to us.
Thank you, Grandma, for being there during the first month of our lives to teach our parents how to cope with the shock of parenthood. Thank you for impressing upon us the importance of family… reminding us to get along with each other, to support each other, and to play fair. You taught us about love, respect, generosity, integrity, and you set the example of what it means to be polite and well mannered. You encouraged us to do our best in school and in our work. But, most importantly, you wanted us to become good people and to enjoy life to the fullest.
Without your wisdom, support, and unconditional love, we would not be who we are today.
We cannot think of a better way to thank you than to pass along these values to future generations. To this, we each promise to do so.
Wherever we are, we know in our hearts, that you will always be there to watch over us, your Monkeys.
Doing something worthwhile…
I actually have something really cool to write about! I have a friend, Maria Abagis, who along with her hubby Spiros, are cycling/travel/photography fanatics. They go places and do things that make the rest of us think about quitting work and hopping on a bike to tour France for a month… or visit Nepal… sigh…
Anyways, last week she tells me that they are going on a trip of a lifetime, which for them is really something! So in her words, this is what they will be doing for the next year.
Starting in January 2008, we will be cycling the length of Africa to raise
money and awareness for WaterCan (www.watercan.com) and Against Malaria
(www.againstmalaria.com). We are participating in the 6th edition of the
Tour D’Afrique; a cycling Race/Expedition that starts at the foot of the
pyramids in Cairo, Egypt and ends 12,000 km and 120 days later in Cape Town,
South Africa. We will be cycling through Egypt, Sudan, Ethiopia, Kenya,
Tanzania, Malawi, Zambia, Botswana, Namibia and South Africa. After the Tour
D’Afrique, we plan on continuing travelling and cycling through Europe and
Asia. We plan on travelling for about 12 months.
I can barely hold in my admiration… wow, what a fantastic experience that will be. The cool part I think, is that this is also for a couple of very good causes. I know Maria did her homework in researching and selecting these charities. Personally I find that there are so many charities out there, it’s hard to know which ones will do the most good with the limited funds they get. Clean water and mosquito nets… sound really simple, but it’s what saves a lot of lives.
Anyways, here’s a link to their blog. Spiros is a fantastic travel photographer, and I’m looking forward to following their progress. I would encourage you to check out the two charities as well. http://www.cyclingtheroadlesstravelled.com/ Safe travels!
Goodbye for now…
On July 19th, I came home and E told me that e said her first word! Until then, she’s been babbling quite a bit, saying some actual words, but not in any context. I was skeptical. E told me what her first word was, and so I went over to e, looked at her and said “Up?” Little e looked me straight in the eye, and said “Upppph”… and I could instantly read it in her eyes that she comprehended!
They say it’s a big deal when your child says her first word, and you really don’t understand that until your own kids says it to you for the first time. “Hey, you understand me…. I understand you!” That is so cool!
The day before, AJ called to let us know Grandpa was in the hospital for Pneumonia getting some antibiotics. There was cause for concern as he is 85 with a lung problem… so I planned to visit the next day. I got home from work, and was waiting for a ride to VGH with UR. When he came over, he told me the news that Grandpa was gone…
I thought that when you got older, gained some wisdom, that you could better cope with loss. I learned that is not the case. I won’t go into how I felt that week, other than to say I was glad to have family around to lean on.
As for my Grandfather, all I have to say is captured in the Eulogy and 2 photos, which I now include for the family…
On behalf of the Lau family, I want to welcome and thank everyone for coming today. It’s very heartwarming to see the faces of my Grandparent’s long time friends… to know that you valued their friendship as much as they valued yours.
What a life…
A few years ago, we sat down with grandpa, and with a tape recorder asked him to tell us his story. Often, we take it for granted that those who know our family history will always be around to tell them. Our Grandparents loved to tell stories, and although we remember some of the details, nobody can tell a story like they did. So we decided to interview Grandpa, and record what we call “the Grandpa stories”Grandpa was the eldest son of six surviving children. When he spoke of his childhood, he talked about how his Grandmother brought him to watch Chinese opera with her, and how she was the one who sent him to music lessons. She was the one responsible for his life long passion for music and the arts.
When the war against Japan started in 1937, Grandpa was just 15 and living in HK. As soon as he finished secondary school in 1941, he made the decision to leave his life and family in HK to study Engineering and join the Chinese Army. Grandpa was eventually promoted to Captain, in charge of logistics, and from family photos, he certainly looked dashing in his uniform.
He didn’t talk much about the war, except to say it was a long time ago. We do know that he nearly lost his life on two occasions. First, during the beginning of the war when he was studying engineering, he fell seriously ill, near death, only to be saved and nursed back to health by a caring woman. The second story was told to us by our Grandma. Grandpa was working at his desk. He got up to use the washroom, which was in another building. Moments later a bomb was dropped, and the explosion destroyed the building he sat in moments ago. Once again, he was saved by fate.
It was near the end the war that he met and married my Grandmother in June 1944. They started a family in a time where the China was still under threat from the Japanese; and after the war, the communists rose as the new threat. Just months before the communists took power in China; Grandpa had the foresight to move the family from certain persecution back to HK, to the one place in China that was still under British rule. We remember how fondly our Grandparents talked about China; it was hard for them to leave their homeland.
1965 he and Grandma made another pivotal decision- they decided to move to North America, realizing that HK would never be able to give the same educational opportunities to their sons that North America could provide. Applying to the States and Canada, Canada just happened to be the first to grant admission, and so Grandpa spent a small fortune on air tickets, and the family was off to Calgary… but fate thankfully intervened again, and after a stopover in Vancouver, they decided to stay here.
The 70s and 80s were spent working, going to Church, traveling, and being the best Grandparents to a growing number of Grandchildren. In the late 80s, Grandpa was finally able to retire for good.
One of the secrets to a fulfilling life is giving and being in service to others. Grandpa was always there to open his door to help friends and family. Back in the 1950s, he practically raised his brother and sisters along with his own large family. He and Grandma devoted many hours to the Church- helping in many different capacities. He gave guidance and support when needed, even helping many of us grandkids with mathematics; and as we got older, helping us with the problems of growing up. He rarely told us what to do; rather, he gave advice and insight from his years of experience. Grandpa gave to us in other ways- if you enjoy taking photos, playing a musical instrument, or drawing… that’s from Grandpa. If you enjoy raising fish in an aquarium, target shooting, collecting gadgets, working with your hands, or doing word searches or Sudoku puzzles… that’s Grandpa. If you place labels on all your belongings, shop at Sears instead of Holt Renfrew, enjoy Church’s Chicken or pork chops with cream of mushroom soup, munch through the biggest jar of Planters peanuts while watching TV, and finish it all off with big bowl of ice-cream for dessert… that’s also Grandpa.
In his lifetime, he was a Civil Engineer, Army Captain and veteran of the Second World War. A skilled craftsman, talented musician and music teacher, photographer, traveler, patron of the arts, a long time church member, and a good friend to many. A big brother, devoted husband, father to 5 boys, grandfather to 9, and great-grandfather to a little boy, and to a little girl. Although he didn’t say it with words, I could tell that Grandpa had a special place in his heart for the newest generation. I can only imagine how proud he must have been.
When Ma-ma passed away, Yeh-Yeh wrote that part of his heart was taken away… but now they are reunited, happy, together once again. Ma-ma, Yeh- Yeh, I don’t know how to thank the both of you for all the sacrifice, guidance, and love you have given us. One day, when my daughter is old enough, I will show her a picture of the both of you, and I will be so proud to tell her all about you and your stories. I know my sister and cousins will do the same for their families.
Yeh-Yeh, thank you for being a good man. Goodbye for now…
Erica at 10 months!
Erica started her 10th month with a cold. Poor kid was a sniffling snot machine. Her nose was so raw that she started to shake her head and complain if she saw you reach for a kleenex.
This month has been a very interesting month. Her hair is finally starting to thicken, she’s vocalizing and repeating sounds a lot more. Ma Ma, Da Da, Ca(t), etc. She can certainly make the sounds, but we’re not sure if she’s associating them with the proper object/person yet.
No signs or interest in crawling or walking yet. She’s lazy that way, but she’s definitely developing in other ways. Manipulating objects, doing the Vulcan hand pose- like the one Spock uses when figuring out a complex logic problem, mastering various jump styles on the jolly jumper, following along as you read a book to her, eating cheerios/mum-mums, giggling at the cats, drinking from a normal cup, and her favorite- flicking water from her sippy cup straw.
It was at Lauren’s one month dinner when I first saw her do this. She has a sippy cup with a flexible straw. She takes her finger, and flicks the straw so water flings up to 5 feet away. When the straw is empty, she would suck up enough water to fill the straw, flick it until it’s empty, then reload. Soon her face was dripping, and she was having almost as much fun as bath time.
Subsequent thoughts on Bangalore
Bangalore, India. I would say that my first impression is that it’s an all out assault on the senses. First is the smells- from within the buildings and of course outside. I can’t describe it, it’s like nothing you get in NA. It’s like the food in that the smells are complex. It’s different in different buildings… especially the temples. Some I liked, some I found pretty powerful. Jasmine is also very popular.
Sights- the city itself is about 5 million, and it’s a mishmash of modern buildings, older stone structures that look like a bomb went off nearby, elaborate, ornate temples, rubble on the street, signage everywhere, and of course, people/cars/scooters/bikes/motorbikes/3 wheeled bike/buses/cows/stray dogs.
Traffic- if you can drive in Bangalore, you can drive anywhere. I’ve never seen anything like it, and I can’t do it justice with words so I’ll just include a clip. Sound wise, horns are going off constantly. People use their horns instead of signalling it seems.
Everything is on the left side a la the UK. If there are 4 lanes, you can have 2 buses, 3 cars or vans, 3 or 4 motorcyles, 2 or 3 of those 3 wheeled things all lined up at the same time. And at the same time, you have peds and cyclists running across the 3 lanes plus other cars from the opposite lane making a right trying to cut through. If you see an opening, you just go… forget shoulder checking. The main thing that got me was the personal space. If you jam so many vehicles together, you are only going to have 2 inches between you and the next car… or motorbike… or pedestrian.
If I roll down the window and stick my hand out. I will lose fingers within 15 seconds… that’s how thick the traffic is.
There’s a lot of stop/go, race to the gaps, honking to move slower cars out of the way. crossing lanes is madness, nobody stops for pedestrians. You pretty much keep the pedal down and honk to let everyone smaller than you know you’re coming. I normally don’t get motion sickness in cars, but I came pretty close a few time.
My driver’s name was Babu. Nice guy, but his english was just ok. We had some pretty interesting conversations. In India, when you hire a car, it comes with a driver, and he’s there the entire time. YOu tell him what time to pick you up. He drives you to the office, and remains with the car until you’re done. As I was working 9am to 7pm, I told him to come back at around 7pm. No, he wouldn’t. He’s paid to stay there the entire day. I felt bad for him sitting in the lot for 10 hours. The cost of this for a week was about 250CDN. And this is with asking him to drive me around sightseeing, a bit of shoppping, and driving me to the airport at 11pm.
The other thing I noticed is that Indians are very service oriented- like at the hotel, they always greet you, offer to help you with your bags. Even little things like I’m waiting for my car, I see him parked 5 yards away, and as I walk over, the doorman stops me, tells me to wait while the car drives 5 yards to the front. At restaurants, you basically don’t do anything but eat. They spoon everything on your plate. If you’re done what’s on your plate and you want more, instead of reaching out for the serving spoon, you flag the guy to put more on your plate. Tipping is also hard to figure out. You don’t tip % wise. If a lunch is 1000 rupees, you tip maybe 22 rupees?
Personal space was another issue I had to get used to. If there’s a 3 seat bench, and I’m sitting at the end, a stranger will plunk himself down next to you. Same with restaurants. If there’s 2 of you, and there’s a table for 4, you sit next to each other and it’s not uncommon for a stranger to come and share you table across from you.
Thoughts on Indian cuisine
8:20am local time Frankfurt. Another grueling leg of the journey is complete, although I don’t know if my knees and bum are going to recover. One more flight to go before I reach home.
I have a 5hr stopover, so I cleaned up a bit, looked at some of the shops to see if I could get a deal on Zeiss lenses or german watches. When I do the conversion from Euro to CDN for a 4000Euro watch or the 10000 Euro gold Leica… ouch!
I must say that anywhere I travel I will try to take a laptop with me. That and a plug adaptor kit so I won’t look like an idiot for forgetting the India uses the same plug as the UK. The laptop is great cuz wifi is available most places, so you can quickly hook up and do some research or catch up on email/news from home. It also makes an ok DVD player. I brought a few movies with me that I watched when I got tired of the local news or the Indian soaps. Out of the 65 channels, 50 of them are playing Indian soaps.
So my first full day in India. I got up, showered, and went down for breakfast. The first thing I kept reminding myself about was water discipline. Basically don’t let your mouth come in contact with anything but bottled water. Why? As JHo eloquently put it- think of India as Mexico with bigger and badder germs. Enough said.
I browsed through the breakfast buffet- standard fare- bacon, eggs, hash, french toast, bread for toast. However there was also an Indian section- Pongol sweet, Pongal regular, and a bunch of other dishes that look like various currys and flat bread. Looks yummy, but for breakfast? They also had an egg and crepe section. Lots of fresh, cut up fruit and lots of juices- pomegranate, pineapple, mango, young coconut are the ones I remember. There was also a yoghurt station with apple and various fruit compote.
Here’s what sucks about travelling for work in India. My primary goal there is work. As I only have a week, I can’t afford any down time, which means I have to be extra careful about what I eat/drink. That means avoid the cut fruit, some of the juices if I don’t know where it’s from, tap water, and dairy.
If I was on holidays, I’d experiment and try out a lot more things. Anyways, I order an omelete with onion, ham, and Masala. Man did my taste buds ever have a great time. New, complex flavors combined with the familiar egg/onion turned a regular omelete into something I never thought an omelete could be.
This is a nice seque to food. It’s pretty clear that Indian cuisine is heavy on the spices according to NA standards. I would say that everything served in India is “Indianafied” For example, I had Chinese for my first lunch. Rice/noodles/soup… standard fare. But when you taste it, right away you notice extra spices have been added to give it “depth.”
I had Aloo gobi, a regional fish, and butter chicken. Again, an explosion in your mouth… comparing the same dishes at home with the real ones in India is like comparing a post card with the real thing. The dishes just had that extra dimension, more and stronger flavors… more depth. Fabulous.
However everything is like that… lunch and dinner. By day 3, my appetite just waned, although my nose and taste buds wanted more. I don’t know if it was my body not wanting to have such heavy meals twice daily, or if the Malarone pills were messing with my appetite. But that really didn’t stop me from trying different things.
First up is dairy. I don’t know what it is- super happy cows, but I had a mango milkshake with dinner one night. It was room temperature-ish, and I took a gulp. Nothing registered in my brain for a few seconds… and then it was like the Mango center in my brain/taste buds just exploded and it was like having Mango for the first time. Same with the ice-cream- happy cows=happy ice cream..
Another meal I ordered fresh mango juice. I waited about 10 minutes before getting it. Here in NA, they would just pout it into your glass from a jug. When it came, again it was room temp… but I noticed that the juice was much more viscous. I took a sip, and wow. What they do is peel and squeeze the mangoes. It’s as fresh as it gets.
However by the end of the week, I wanted some more simple fare. My appetite was not100% and I just craved something simple like Sushi or noodles. On the menu, they had baby corn battered in Mangalore spices where they take the baby corn, roll it in batter and deep fry it. I love baby corn, so I give it a go. It was very good, but I find that baby corn in itself has a subtle favor and that the Mangalorean spices just overpowered it.
To sum up, fantastic flavors with lots of depth. The tandoori chicken was marvelous. However I just could not eat that much of it. Imagine going to Tandoori King for 2 meals a day for a week, and that’s kinda how I felt. I’ll include some pics I took of some dishes at lunch.
Next up, first impressions of the City, Traffic, Cultural differences, and Religion.
Second leg…
I boarded the 747 from Frankfurt to Bangalore just before noon. Seeing so many Indians waiting in line, it was my first taste of the culture change that was to come.
The plane was packed, but I got a window seat thankfully, so I settled in for a snooze. I found that the 747 gave a bit more room, and the seats were a bit more comfortable. It helped that I could lean against the window.
There are 2 lines of thought when dealing with timezone change. Try to stay awake to synch with the destination timezone, so that when you arrive at nightime, you are ready to sleep even though your body says it’s still afternoon. Or zonk out and sleep as much as you can. I tried the former for about 4 minutes, and basically zonked out for most of the flight.
Plus when you are asleep on the plane, the monotony of being immobile is a bit more bearable.
A few hours in, I looked out the window and saw the black sea. It looks like a beautiful area for a future visit.
Once we reached India, we started to hit some turbulance around Mumbai. It’s monsoon season so Mumbai is heavily flooded. I think over the season they get 2 meters of rain!
I had taken a gravol earlier so I was still fairly sleepy. At this point, I really didnt care how bad the turbulance was, but it was pretty constant from Mumbai to Bangalore. It’s a strange sensation… it’s dark outside, you’re strapped in looking at the seat in front of your, but you’re getting bounced around in all 4 axis. There’s no visual frame of reference for all this motion you’re feeling. Gravol is your friend.
Finally… lights from below. Nothing like the lights from Calgary or New York, but concentration of dim lights scattered here and there. As we drop into final approach, I see signs, roads, and buildings very close beneath us… where’s the runway? The ride is bumpy all the way down… finally the rear wheels touch, and we feel this left-right-left swaying from a cross-wind. Yee haw!! touch down at midnight. We disembark and the first thing you notice is the humidity in the air, and the different smells.
The airport is well… a lot like the airport in Cancun- an older building made of plaster and stone. We’re herded like cows to the immigration lineups where there’s about 6 stone-faced officers with stamps. There’s a sign that says <paraphrasing> “less talk, get through faster”
I’m like the last person to get through immigration as I was seated at the back of the plane. Next is baggage carousel, which after looking at the size of it and the sheer number of passengers crowded around it, I’m so glad i just brought 2 carry-on bags. I change my CDN to Rupees… hand the man 100, and I get 3500 rupees back in 1000 and 100 bills. My wallet feels full.
Final hurdle is the customs, give the man the slip saying I’m not bringing anything of worth into the country, and I’m through the doors.
At this point, I’m supposed to meet the hotel driver holding a sign with my name. I see about 7 well dressed drivers in uniform… nope, my names not there. I pass through some more doors and see more drivers with signs… nope not there either. At this point I’m not worried, but am wondering what to do. I walk to the main doors to peek outside, and I see hundreds of dark faces peering back at me. Wow, Toto, I don’t think we’re in Kansas anymore…
I was hesitant to walk out into the throng, as I haven’t left the building and I’ve been asked if I want a cab 3 or 4 times. I double check to make sure I didn’t walk pass my driver, and I head outside. Thankfully I spot my “Indian-fied name almost immediately- Mr. Deerek Lau”
Walk fast down the ramp and into the parking lot. Looking around, I see building architecture that you just don’t see anywhere in NA. Different materials- stone/plaster/wood. The parking lot is controlled chaos with cars, scooters, bikes, and those 3 wheel jobs zipping around. I hop into the backseat and off we go to the hotel.
The driver is nice, I can kinda understand him… he’s already offering to take me around the city on a tour sometime. I found that a lot, Indians are masters at drumming up additional opportunites and business.
The trip through the city is wild- the traffic- I’ll write about that later- is almost indescribable… and I thought Paris was tough.
So we’re winding through streets that look pretty rough- rubble on the side, some buildings look like they’ve been bombed, lots of signage selling various products… and all of a sudden the car makes a right turn through some gates, and voila, I’m at the Chancery Pavillion. It’s a nice hotel, even by NA standards. The doorman opens my door, and offers to help with my bag. Pet peeve, when I’m carrying a small 19″ carryon, and a backpack, I don’t need help to carry it 10 yards to the front desk, or 5 yards to the car. I know it’s part of the service culture, but really…
As I enter the building, I notice it again, that smell. Every building you enter has a fragrance to it, and it’s different from building to building. It’s like a spicy, heavy perfumy smell. It’s like Potpourri mixed with feenugreek seeds.
By the time i check in and get to my room, it’s almost 1:20am. I plug in my laptop, and of course there’s a fee to use the internet. Most NA hotels are free, but here it’s 200 rupees ($6 cdn) an hour. The hotel is 260USD/day, which if you think of what that means to the average Indian, it’s a staggering amount. I later find out that my driver rents a place for his family of 4 for 1200 rupees a month.
I get on MSN, send some emails, unpack a bit, and I’m ready for bed at 2am, and I’m getting up by 8am to meet the driver. 20 hours on the plane, 26 hours of straight travel. ZzzZZzzZZzzz…
Owww my bum!!
So I packed my bags and left last Saturday to fly 20 hours to pretty much the opposite side of the world. I had no idea what to expect, the longest flight I had ever taken was to London, and that is less than half the time to Bangalore. I found the hardest part was to leave E, and especially e behind. I had become so accustomed to having her as a part of my daily routine, that it felt strange to not be there for her.
To give an idea of what I mean, I saw a clip of Tiger woods talking about the birth of his daughter… it about the experience of loving something so much, something that did not exist the day before. I think people bond with their babies at different rates, some it’s immediate, some not. For me, it started when e first grabbed my finger at 2 minutes old, and it’s grown steadily since… so I found it a bit hard to say goodbye.
My cab driver was from India, so we had a nice chat about monsoon season, and what to expect. One annoying thing is having to show up so early for international flights. 2-3 hours. I understand that security and checkin takes time, but I think they do this partly to spread out the rush, otherwise everyone would try to get onboard 30 min before flighttime.
I had a good 90 min to kill after passing security, so I bought a litre of water- $3.50 cdn and just chilled at the gate.
I flew Lufthansa to Bangalore via Frankfurt. The plane was a BIG airbus 300, and it was packed. I didn’t notice this until later, but I think I was the only asian onboard. I had the aisle seat and a Portuguese girl sat next to me. She was flying home after working the Vancouver to Alaska cruise lines selling jewelry. She pointed out a lot of her other crewmembers who were flying home to Europe, and other Europeans who were on the cruise. Anyways, being on a plane was new for her, and she was pretty much breaking all the rules- yakking on the cell phone and reclining her seat during takeoff. The Turkish couple in front told her that the cell phone will damage the planes electronics, and must be turned off. Uh huh.
Anyways I won’t comment on how pretty she was because I’ll get punched by my wife… and honey, I didn’t bring my wedding ring because I didn’t want to lose it in a foreign country.
Although the plane is big, everyone is packed in so the space is more like what you find on a domestic flight. Not great for 10 hours in the air. Behind was a family with 2 small boys- at the age where they can talk, but there’s no volume control. To occupy them, they had a small video game unit, with I’m guessing a violent game. They were yelling “Get the bullets!! Over there, over there!!!” Great. In situations like these, IPOD is your friend.
I tried to sleep, but it was hard to sustain it for any length of time. It really becomes a mental challenge- looking at your watch and seeing that you’re nearing your limit, but only 2 hours have passed. 😐
About the 8 hour mark, you’re over Europe, and the thought that crossed my mind was “I’m less than 50% of the way there” Owwwww… the best word I can use to describe sitting on a plane for 10 hours, unable to move is “ordeal”
The other helpful tip is to bring a pharmacy with you onboard. Decongestant, gum, gravol, painkillers…
We finally landed in Frankfurt- 2:50am PST, and 10:50am local time. My connecting flight was leaving in 40 min, and we had yet to get off the plane and take the bus to the terminal. Run Forest run…
The first indication that I was going to another world was at gate B45… FRA to BLR on a 747. Again I was the only asian, and there was a handful of Europeans… and the rest of the flight was filled with Indians. Not like 72nd and Scott Rd, but very traditionally dressed Indians. Only 9.5 hours over europe, Serbia/yugoslavia, turkey, middle east, and finally India…