Randy Pausch

A few weeks ago I didn’t know who Randy Pausch was, and I admit that I stumbled upon his speech and his story quite accidently. After learning the backstory, I watched the speech, and was just captivated. Although titled ‘Achieving your childhood dreams’ it boils down to passing on all the lessons learned on how to live a good life. When he revealed his true intention for giving the speech at the end, I just had a lump in my throat and it was one of those rare moments where I was truly moved.

Anyways, I’m not sure why it’s no longer on youtube, but I did find a shorter version of his speech here-

If you have an hour to watch the entire speech, or want to read the book (I’m halfway through); both can be found here-

http://www.cmu.edu/uls/journeys/randy-pausch/index.html

I highly recommend checking it out, it’s time well spent.

Our new home!

So here are the pics of our new place, near Como Lake.  Of course our furnishings aren’t anything like what’s pictured, but it should be fun to see what it will look like in a year once we’ve settled in. 

I’ll have to say that getting to this point has been one of the more trying exercises I can remember.  It started off with us stumbling upon the house at the end of a string of open houses and drive-bys.  We stopped in and just felt that it was “it.”  That evening we did some more research, discussed the pros/cons, and made the call to put an offer in a couple of days later.  Our mantra was “if it’s meant to be, we’ll get it…”

Our first offer was accepted subject to inspection, financing, and sale of our place.  We knew the first two wouldn’t be a problem, and with the track record of sales in our building, we felt our chances of a quick sale would be good.  The paperwork was signed, and then the real work started.

I won’t post any pics of our place before  we started decluttering, only because it would have been pic after pic of baby stuff.  It was clear we had to move stuff into storage, and so instead of renting a truck, filling it up, and driving stuff over to a storage facility, we went with a company called “Ah so easy…”  They drop a container off on the street, you fill it up over a day or two, then they come take it away and store it until you need them to drop it off at the new location. Thanks to GB for that tip! 

We packed that weekend like mad, and also did some repairs to finish off the stairs, and other maintenance work.  I’m so glad we had the extra help to declutter and move things out.  When the decluttering finished, my sister came out to help stage the place (pics in another post) and get things ready for the open house.  It was at that time that I came down with a nasty flu.  Sigh…

Mom and Vennie did a great job staging the place and so all we had to do was maintain things, get some sunny weather, and get a sale to complete the deal.

First open house we had 10 people cruise through (a few of them neighbours).  A couple of bites, but nothing.  Next open house (Father’s day), we had 1 person show up.  🙁

Here’s the interesting thing I did not know before.  Our offer on the house isn’t binding until we remove subjects.  Even though we have an accepted offer, another party with a stronger offer can come in and trump us.  If that were to happen, we have 48 hours to make a big decision.  Lock in or lose the house.  If we lock in without selling our place, we can be carrying 2 mortgages, and with #2 coming in September, not a great position to be in.

2 1/2 weeks in, finally an offer!  It is a reasonable offer, but subject to the sale of her condo.  This means that nothing is binding until she officially sells her place, and if the offer on her place is subject to sale of another place, then the chain continues until someone down the line comes up with a strong deal.  This chaining effect can go on for quite a few deals, just like a domino effect.  The day she comes in for a second viewing, we had our open parking area vandalized for copper pipes…  Obviously this has an effect on her, and on the day of her subject removal (July 4) she kills the deal without even reviewing the strata meeting minutes.  Back to square 1.

Another open house the following weekend and we get 6 visitors, and a couple more private viewings.  On July 8th, we get some news… someone else has a strong offer on the house, and we have 48 hours to decide what to do!  That same day, we also get another offer, no subject to sale.  That deal however, would not conclude until July 15th, and means that if we decide to lock in the house on July 10th, there is a risk that the buyer for our place could back out and leave us in a tight spot!  We talked about it at length, and decided that this is the house we want to raise our family in, and we’ll take the calculated risk.

 So we take the plunge and sign the paperwork.  All we need to do is wait for the buyer to complete inspection of the building and meeting minutes.  That Friday night, the buyer calls off the inspection.  :-0  Apparently there was some concern over the type of businesses that could go into our retail space.  That evening was spent talking to our strata council and pouring over the bylaws and amendments to find out what controls we had over the type of business could go in. 

When we bought, we never thought about this.  Most of the retail has been there for years, and they are pretty harmless- print shop, massage parlour (not the kind found on Kingsway), nail and hair place, cafe, etc.  In the end it took a call from the prospective buyer to one of the council members to calm things down, and the inspection was on again.  I can say there was a fair amount of drama over that incident!

Next up was the physical inspection, and we knew that would go well.  Just a few cracked tiles and a lock that needed adjustment was all that was reported back.  The last bit of drama that went on was the buyer’s realtor threatening the deal over the replacement of the tiles whereas we saw it as regular wear/tear.  Once we got over that bit of annoyance, the deal went through and everything was locked in.  Whew!  That was probably the most challenging 6 weeks to go through the ups and downs, plus the work to get our place ready to show.

I will say that in the future, it’s better to sell first, then go shopping for a place since coming into a deal with no subject to sell really enhances your position and makes thing a lot quicker.  Notch one on the belt of experience.

Our move date is August 30, which is less than 2 weeks before our official due date.  E had her ultrasound yesterday, and our baby is about 5lbs now and is quite a mover/shaker!

We’ll be really sad to leave our complex, and our friends.  When we were scrambling to get information we had to call upon our neighbors for help.  Even though they do not want to see us move, they did everything they could to help us sell, including digging up old documents and taking calls late in the evening.  That’s what kind of a community exists here, and one that we’re going to miss very much.  When we did finally sell, they were all congratulating us and ut was all bittersweet.  We’ve been there for 7 years.

 As our neighbour Patsy put it as she was explaining the situation to her 4 year old daugther, Ming- “we’re no longer neighbours, but we’re still friends!”

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An interesting year… so far!

Hard to believe we’re almost half way through 2008.  I keep thinking what a paradox time can be… the older you are, the faster it goes.  I also used to think that the older you get, the more stable life becomes.  You tend to have a more secure job, know who you are, and generally settle down.

I don’t know why, but it seems like the rollercoaster is speeding up and we’re about to go into free-fall!

First up, we have an accepted offer on a house!  When e started walking and entering toddlerhood, it was at that point where we outgrew our place.  Generally we love living here.  The area is really convenient, we have a lot of friends in the area, e’s daycare is around the corner, and we spent many days enjoying the views from the decks, and of course BBQs! 

We’ve been looking for a house in our neighborhood for about a couple of years, but nothing seemed to fit.  The value just wasn’t there.  For example, 600K gets you a standard lot with a small house built in the 1950’s.  Prices have just gone up and up, although they are now moderating, I don’t think we can get what we want for under 760K.  Unfortunately we had to look east in search of value, and that search took us out of Burnaby and into Coquitlam. 

Last weekend we were driving around looking at open houses, not really expecting anything as we’ve been taking drives out there for about 6 weeks to try and get to know the area better.  The first few were flips, and although nicely done up, we didn’t feel the value was there.  The last house on our list was in a Cul de sac in Harbour Place.  Couldn’t recall why I jotted it down, but we were passing on the way home so we decided to drop by. 

They say that it’s your gut feeling that tells you when it’s the “one.”  I guess it’s similar to dating… but we both got the same feeling after looking around for a few minutes.  The price was reasonable, the size, condition, layout, and yard met our criteria, even the wall color was similar to what we would have chosen.  For us, it hit all the marks except it wasn’t located beside Jericho beach.  There’s still a lot of work to do to remove the subjects, and if we get that far, I’ll post pics of the house and write more about it.  That being said, we’re now in a mad rush to get our place on the market and sold quickly.  Should be fun decluttering and moving furniture with a toddler running around!

Second bit of news is that we’re expecting our… second!  Yes we decided one was not enough work and so #2 should be arriving mid-September.  <reminder to self- exhale>  It was this that prompted us to get a realtor and fast track the house hunting as I don’t know how we’d cope with 2 in our current place.  I think the timing should work out- hopefully we can sell soon and move in by late August.  <note #2 to self- never start a new job and have a baby the same month>

So if you’re feeling up to moving boxes, I’m sure we’ll need all the help we can get!  <note #3- thou shalt not sell and move while wife is very pregnant, and especially not when there’s a very active toddler getting into everything!>

Wish us luck!  So far I haven’t changed jobs this year.  🙂 

  

Happy Easter!



Bunny ears

 Well our first long weekend of the year… started off with the yearly visitation to Forest Lawn and Ocean View.  It was certainly a nice day, and great to see everyone come and pay their respects.  For me, it was an opportunity to show Erica the names of her and Great-Grandparents and Great-Great Grandparents!  In the future, I’m looking forward to a time where I can tell her more about family that have passed on.  I can tell her with a lot of fondness about what they did, what they were like, and how a part of them lives on in us.

I find it interesting observing how visits to the cemetary change over time.  The first few years it’s very sad and solemn, but over the years I think it gradually changes to a happier occasion, remembering the good times with other family members and talking about… well life. 

As I look at the dates, it’s hard to comprehend how quickly time has passed.  I like to think that it’s a reminder to focus on the relationships and things that are happening now, and not spend too much time dwelling on the past or future.

That night, e’s nose starts running like a drippy faucet, and yep, she’s got a cold.  Poor thing can’t breathe so she wakes up all cranky. 

e with a cold

TV Deja Vu

When I was growing up, my list of favorite drama/action TV shows were something like this-

  • Bionic Man
  • Battlestar Galactica
  • Knight Rider
  • Airwolf
  • Simon and Simon/Magnum PI
  • Miami Vice

Now when I turn on the tele, instead of reruns I see reimagined versions of Bionic Woman, Battlestar Galactica, and now Knight Rider.  In the theatres, we had movie versions of The Dukes of Hazzard, Miami Vice, and Starsky and Hutch… and in an interesting reversal there’s the made for TV Terminator- Sarah Conner Chronicles and I believe an upcoming Star Wars series.

Is it possible that we’re running out of creativity, and simply rehashing old ideas, or are TV shows like fashion- acid wash jeans and pastel colors get recycled after a couple of generations when everyone has forgotten what a bad idea they were in the first place.

It seems odd to me to see the same shows appear on TV again.  I have happy childhood memories of the originals, so why do they need to bring the shows back to try the formula again?  For whatever reason, the remakes are often shadows of the original.  Sorry, but Starsky and Hutch was a joke, I couldn’t bring myself to see Dukes of Hazzard, and Miami Vice was just ok, but none lived up to the original. 

Don’t get me wrong, I thought that the reimagination of Battlestar Galactica was waaay better than the original… once you got past the fact that Starbuck is now a girl.  Likewise with  Terminator- I actually really like it- it’s clever and they’ve put a new spin on it.  I hope it gets renewed.

As for the new Knight Rider and Bionic woman.  Boooring.  I hope the old Kitt comes out of retirement and shows the new Kitt some old school moves.

Infant to Toddler

Apparently there’s a difference between an Infant and a Toddler, and the line is drawn at 18 months old.  Honestly, I had no idea what the difference is… they’re all babies aren’t they? 

 Well e turned 18 months a few days ago, and I think I understand the difference.  With an Infant, you pretty much carry them around, watch them crawl, waddle, take some steps, etc.  They observe things and interact with a lot of curiosity.

 Lately we’ve been adding new phrases to our vocabulary:

 “Put that down!”  “Don’t poke yourself with the fork”  “Stop chasing the cats!”  “Why are you squishing your food”  “Hey, where are you going?  Come back here!” “Who turned off the computer?!” “Don’t open the cupboard and put the Tabasco sauce back!”

Yeah I think we know the difference now.  It’s like with her new found mobility, she’s continuously scanning the counter and table tops for interesting things to grab and experiment with.  She loves to grab a pen, spoon, anything that extends her reach… and uses it to poke, tap, drum, or fetch things.  Now she’s able to act on her curiousity, whereas when she was an Infant, she was pretty curious, but more passively so.  It’s interesting to watch her develop at this stage, but it also means parenting has taken on a very active aspect!

taking a walk with neighbours

Mealtime